It is the opinion of many men, that women, by and large, are crazy.

I do not share that opinion at all.

For the most part, most women I’ve met and been with have been pretty sane and healthy, and maybe just a bit nutty enough to be interesting (as I myself have been described).

But one of the more common complaints I get from students is something along the lines of, “Why do I only seem to attract the crazy ones?”

For example, the other day, one of my students who is a member of my exclusive clients-only discussion group, for owners of my Home Study Course, posted a story about a young woman who he had been chatting up.

It seems this young lady had been discussing how she wanted to lose her virginity but also seemed to be quite afraid of men.

How did she let my student know about her fear?

Well, she invited him back to her dorm room to get some help filling in some school related paperwork. But as they were headed there she said, “I just want you to know I keep a really large switchblade in my room that I always show to guys. So please don’t be scared of my knife-it’s normal to keep one when you’ve been abused as a child, right?”

I kid you not.

Now, I have nothing but sympathy for any human who has been abused. But it isn’t this guy’s job (or yours) to do what I call “emotional dentistry”-if a woman is already sexually hung up or emotionally shut-down, trying to get past all that and only after that, trying to get her attracted to you is like pulling teeth. Just too much damn work and not your job.

The answer to “why do I keep attracting the crazy ones?” is, “because up until now, you thought that was your job and that the crazy ones were all there were”.

With the tools and methods of Speed Seduction® you can screen for and attract the women who already love sex, love intimacy and love men.

It beats the hell out of knife-wielding co-ed teenaged-virgins…although on second thought that sounds kinda hot.

Piece and peace,

Wow.It looks like my post the other day about Tom Leykis really touched a nerve.

Mostly it generated overwhelming support. You guys are mostly very pleased that I’ve made a strong distinction between Speed Seduction(R) and Leykis’ idiotic “girl-hating” Leykis 101.



However I have been getting some colorful hate mail. Mostly illiterate and obscene. And most of it not worth answering.But some of it appears fairly thoughtful, praising Tom’s ongoing effort to warn men against the manipulations of gold-diggers, users, etc.

Ok. I get that. I can see the value. But when you step beyond issuing warnings and cross over into advocating being an exploiter and user yourself, then you are really getting into dark(and ultimately self-defeating)territory.



And here is the point you Lekyis Luvin’ Loonies missed: Tom’s view of women is directly reflected in his view of sex-it’s about dumping loads. About building a charge and discharging. About fluid pressure building and releasing. In other words, it’s just and only a highly enjoyable and more vivid form of jacking off. Just using another human as opposed to pictures or movies.

Hey, you don’t need a philosophy for that. Just a few Ben Franklins and your nearest strip-club.



And speaking of philosophy, here is a point I want you fans of Tom to try to understand: “What the thinker thinks, the prover proves”. If you put on a filter that only looks at women as evil, manipulative, vicious, self-centered exploiters, THEN THAT IS WHAT YOU WILL SEE.

I’m not talking about some idiotic “New Age” doctrine from “The Secret”. I’m talking simple psychology; if you create a strong sort filter, your brain will sort out what doesn’t fit with that filter.And equally importantly, what you set as your vision will be the limits of your experience.



If your vision of sex is simply dumping loads, you will probably dump lots of loads. But you will very likely never experience it as anything better, more exciting, or more satisfying and fulfilling.



Don’t get me wrong; occasionally we guys all want to just dump loads. Hey, occasionally we all want to eat junk food. But it isn’t exactly something I would like to have as the only choice on the menu.



‘Nuff said about this to all you Leykis Loonies. I think it’s time you raised your sights in terms of what you expect from women AND in terms of whom you turn to for advice. Might I suggest, as only I can, that you subscribe to my newsletter?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Why don’t you check out my Speed Seduction Home Study Course? It will put you into a world of satisfaction with women that Leykis can’t get with all of his fame and money.

In the last issue of this ongoing ezine series, I explained how getting her doing most of the talking is a key to you never running out of things to say and a good way to get her doing most of the seduction work.

Now let’s get to tip #3:

Secrets Of Continuous Conversation Tip #3:
Know What To Topics To Discuss When You Are Going
To Be Talking
Before I give you this tip, it’s crucial that I make a distinction: this isn’t just about never running out of things to say. It’s about saying things and getting her talking in ways that capture and lead her imagination and emotions.

A good general rule here is that if what you are discussing can be put on a chart or a graph or a prospectus or resume…

…It Is Probably Not Going To Capture And Lead Her Imagination And Emotions

There is a half-truth floating around out there that says men are not as verbal as women.

The full truth is that we guys are just as verbal, but our language tends to be factually based, referring to data, facts, figures, numbers etc.

When you want to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and emotions, you need to speak in language that addresses the right brain-the seat of emotions, fantasies, desires, etc.

And even more importantly, you need to be able to get a woman talking about these themes, topics and subjects, because when a woman talks about something…

…She Revives The Emotions And Feeling States Associated With That Topic

Have you ever had a woman start talking about a negative, painful subject and watch her mood progressively get worse and worse?

If you are a “nice guy” and have been the guy women dump their problems, complaints and pain on, you’ve probably witnessed this as you’ve suffered thorugh your career as her “emotional tampon”.

Don’t I just have a lovely way with metaphors that stick in your mind?

Anyway, since women revive the emotions associated with the topics that they are talking about, it is crucial to know what topics to introduce to get her emotions moving in the way we want them to move-towards lust, desire, fascination, desire, connection, etc.

Doesn’t that just make sense?

Here are a few topics that you should always have a way to bring up with women.

• Fantasy, escape, diversion, adventure
• Indulgence, cravings, spoiling herself
• Connections, with others, nature, beauty, something bigger and more beautiful than she expected

If you’d like to know all of the topics, and many easy ways to both speak about them and get women talking about them, all the way to your bed (or floor or couch), check out my Home Study Course.

Peace and piece,

RJ

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

One of the questions I’m sometimes asked is, “What do you think of Tom Leykis and Leykis 101?”

For those of you who don’t know, Leykis has an enormously popular syndicated radio talk show(he’s on 97.1 FM here in Southern California) where he mostly preaches his misogynist doctrine on success with women, called Leykis 101.

While Leykis talks about the importance of having game, which is certainly important, it his definition of what game is that is troublesome and twisted.

Essentially Leykis believes that women are attracted mostly to men with money, and that women have sex not because they mostly enjoy it, but to latch on to a man and use him as a meal ticket. And he further believes that by treating women like trash, they will feel the need to validate themselves by sleeping with the men who treat them in this fashion.

For him, game is therefore about lying to women about your social-economic status to make yourself more appealing and treating women like doo doo.

What isn’t stated in all of this is what I actually find most troubling; that sex is basically about dumping your load on or into someone who visually excites you but emotionally repels you. It’s about stimulation and discharge and nothing more; a sort of very vivid and interactive jack-off.

Isn’t it interesting? His view of women and how they should be treated, matches up and reflects his experience of sex. If you hold people as contemptible then how could you view joining with them intimately as something other than contemptible at worst, or merely mechanical build up and release at best?

And beyond that, his ideas are inaccurate to be generous about it. The biggest inaccuracy that women don’t enjoy and crave sex for its own sake, and that pretending to be able to buy them is the best way to go about things.

Very sad for Tom and for those listeners he badly misleads. For those of us who know how to capture and lead womens’ imagination and emotions, we know how utterly unnecessary the contempt and the lying is, and how grateful women are to be lead to the kinds of wonderful feelings they deeply crave.

Dump the hate, Tom. And open up your mind.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. If you are a Leykis listener I especially invite your comments.

In the last issue of the ezine series on Continuous Conversation I explained how turning down the lust and getting curious about her was crucial to never running out of things to say that also moves the seduction along.

Let’s jump to the next Continuous Conversation Principle:

Continuous Conversation Tip#2:
Get Her Doing Most Of The Talking

This dovetails perfectly with the first tip about getting curious about her and asking the right questions-obviously you are doing this to get her talking.

But what most guys don’t realize is that getting her talking instead of you dominating the conversation, is crucial for many reasons and that you ignore this one at your peril.

You see, not only does flapping your lips most of the time make her feel that you are not listening to her and seeing her as a real human being. It also causes you to ignore the very important tips and clues she is giving you about what she likes, what she responds to, what turns her on and also what turns her off.

Hell, some guys are so busy talking they don’t even notice it when a woman is actually hot and ready to go; they actually talk themselves out of her bed.

What’s that you’re thinking? “I’d never be that stupid, Ross”.

Don’t be too sure. Don’t be too sure. Don’t be too sure.

What I’ve found is that by getting women talking about the right topics and themes and knowing how to intensify her feelings that come up from these conversations, I can usually get her to talk herself right through my front door. And you would be shocked (and perhaps disturbingly aroused) at how graphic these conversations get-and this is the key-on her part, not mine. My students report the same thing over and over and over again, so this has got to be a powerful principle.

Ignore it at your peril.

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries
Founder, Speed Seduction ®

P.S. Your Home Study Course is waiting right here, filled with example after example of how to get her talking in the right direction and how to easily use what she gives you to make her hot and ready to jump you. Thousands of guys have got this course-how big of an advantage do they have on you?

If you follow the advice I am about to give you in the next few issues of this ezine, you will never again have to worry about running out of things to say or talk about with women.

Now for those of you who have witnessed what a silver- tongued devil I am these days, it might be hard to believe that yes, your Guru of Getting Some was once a guy who stumbled over his words with women. Once I ran out of funny(I could always make anyone laugh) I pretty much had shot my bolt, and the conversations would either stop right there, or I would go off on lectures about military history, the United States strategic nuclear weapons stockpile, or some other instant female turn-off topic (IFTT).

So in the next couple of issues of this ezine, I want to give you some very easy to use tips to assist you in always being able to move things forward so you and the lady you lust wind up doing the mattress grind tango.

Continuous Conversation Tip #1:
Turn Down The Lust, Turn Up The Curiosity

I often tell my students who present this problem that the real issue is not that they run out of things to say, but rather they run out of things to notice and get curious about.

So many guys are so focused on how luscious Linda or marvelous Malin will look riding their baloney pony that they forget that women are human beings. They have hopes, fears, wishes, joys, desires. Yes, they have great legs, rears and pouty BJ lips. But it is what is in their hearts and minds that will assist you in getting into their skivvies.

One good way to do this is to simply ask yourself the question, “What can I notice about this person that I can get curious about? What kind of question can I ask her that will get her to start talking to me about what she enjoys, what she dreams about, what she likes to indulge in?”

The questions that you generate from this kind of thinking are almost always exactly the kinds of questions that will open a woman up and get her talking herself right into your bed. And an added bonus is that she will perceive you as wonderfully “deeper” and different from the thousands of drooling slobs who try to paw her within minutes of meeting her or bombard her with compliments on her looks.

When you stand out like this in a woman’s eyes, you are half-way home to pulling back the sheets with her. And that sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. If you discover that you want more details on exactly the kinds of questions to ask women that bring their deepest desires and fantasies to the surface and how to grab hold of them and link them to you, you might want to click below and give my Home Study Course a look: http://www.speedseduction.biz/products/RJ187.php

P.P.S. Honestly, I know this will sound like total bull to many of you, but you can actually learn to stimulate a woman’s desires and fantasies before you even open your mouth, so what you say to her after that has even more impact. Check out my third best-selling course of my career below to find out more: http://www.speedseduction.biz/products/RJ170.php

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

Sometimes the truth comes to us in odd forms and odd ways, delivered by some very bent messengers.

Case in point this hilarious video; this woman is clearly crazed, but she is also speaking truth.

Enjoy, and let me know if you think YOU have “Penis Power” as she describes it.

Peace and piece,

RJ

 Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

 As you know, I recently put up a 12 part Introduction To Speed Seduction(R) Language course on Youtube

  I’ve gone back to YouTube and added annotations to the videos; my personal notes and commentary on what I am teaching. You can get on my Youtube channel right now and watch them with the annotations; unfortunately you can’t see the annotations if the video is embedded on another page.

 So go ahead and give this one a view here, but then jump over to my channel to see the annotated versions of this and the other videos.    I’ll be keeping this up and public for the next 48 hours, then they come down again.  

 Peace and piece,  RJ 

I am truly starting to hate Vacaville, CA.

No-I take that back. Vacaville is not bad enough to hate. Hot. Boring. Air heavy with the smoke of nearby fires.

But Vacaville I can only dislike.

It is SAAB I am starting to hate.

To fix the broken air conditioning compressor and all the attendant damage will cost around $2500.

Now, SAABS are lots of fun. Move like the wind. Handle like you wouldn’t believe.

But they are VERY high maintenence. Costly. Expensive to maintain. Incredibly expensive to repair.

I really have to ask myself, “Is all the fun and high performance worth the bother?”. And right now, I truly don’t know.

Now, what in the world does this have to do with YOU being more successful with women?

Just this: do YOU know what YOU are looking for when it comes to the emotional and psychological characteristics of the woman/women you want to be with?

Are you willing to put up with a fast-moving, slick model that is constantly having “emotional” breakdowns and in need of high maintainence like my SAAB?

And what kind of characteristics will YOU have to display and take on, in order to match those of the woman/women who have the characteristics you desire?

One thing I’ve said many times, and it is a paradox: the more selective a man is, the greater selection he has.

You see, not only will screening women for the right psychological characteristics insure that you are much happier. But screening women makes you much more appealing and keeps YOU in the “drivers seat”.

Unlike me, who is still stuck in this flea-bag, smoke-infested, inferno called Vacaville.

Peace and piece,

RJ