Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

I’ve been getting lots of questions, comments and flak about what went down on my Dr. Phil appearance last Friday.

Let me jump ahead by saying what I find most interesting and most unexpected is not the usual fan-mail from students and hate-mail(many filled with delightful ethnic slurs and anatomically impossible suggestions about fun with my deceased mother) from knuckle-heads, but the fan-mail from women who are eager to learn my seduction secrets to use on men!

In fact, the fan-mail from women is larger in volume than the other mail combined!

So I guess while the women in Dr. Phil’s audience appeared to be disinterested and even appalled, the women watching at home want to know more.

Which, in a sense shouldn’t be that surprising; I think one of the ultimate compliments and endorsements of my work is when women who had been involved with my students write to me and plead to be introduced to more of my students because they have never experienced such good feelings before and want them again!

In any case, what the knuckle-heads seem not to get is that shows like Dr. Phil aren’t just free-for all talk-fests.

Rather, each guest is assigned a potential “role” which is discussed with producers many times, and carefully fleshed out PRIOR to the show being taped.

Which is not to say this shows don’t typically have SOME kind of ambush laying in wait for at least some of the guests, but that notwithstanding, when you go on these shows, you have a general idea of what is going to go down.

In this instance, I was contacted by the producers who wanted to do a show about the dangers of the pick-up and seduction community, and, as the person who has been in it the longest, they wanted me to dish the dirt.

Given that I’ve met all of the big names(shit, next to me, I think they are all SMALL names), and that many of these “gurus” are former students in one sense or the other, I think they made a good casting choice.

The Taping

I arrive to the taping to discover that the first three segments will star a few guys from “The Mystery Method”.

Now, those of you who saw the show may have noticed that the real Mystery-Erik Von Markovic-was nowhere to be seen.

You see, the lovely guys who were on the show presenting themselves as “the Mystery Method” founders are actually involved in a vicious lawsuit with the REAL Mystery, whose name and web domain they have taken.

I certainly don’t have a dog in that fight, which wasn’t actually going on at the time the show was taped in 2006.

But I do have my problems with some of the things taught in MM, no matter whom is doing the teaching, most notably the elements of punishment and control of women, which I find vile, disgusting and completely unnecessary.

As I keep teaching, when you capture and lead a woman’s imagination and emotions, and give her feelings she’s never had before, you don’t need to invalidate her or use any kind of punishment.

The worst “punishment” is simply to stop giving her the good feelings and to go away.

So, as was required by my role, and by my honest opinions, I went after these guys with all of my veteran talk-show skills-they were virgins and I’ve been on dozens and dozens of them.

The Big Edit-I Shut Up Dr. Phil, But You Didn’t See It!

You may have noticed that Dr. Phil kept dogging me about my over-the-top marketing.

What you didn’t see is that, at one point, I interrupted him and said, “Look; I’m just doing with my marketing what your producers do with your preview clips. They take the most titilating parts and edit them to entice people to watch your show instead of change the channel. I’ve got to do the same thing on the internet to keep people from clicking off my site.”



Dr. P actually look startled and didn’t know what to say for about half a second. Then he retorted, “Wait a minute! What you see in those clips is REAL. What you see on this show is REAL!”

At which point I turned my back on him, looked right in the camera and said, “If anyone here in the audience or anyone watching this at home thinks that this show isn’t heavily scripted and edited to manipulate your emotions, welcome to your fantasy world!”



I kinda thought they’d cut it, and sure enough, they proved me right.

The Meaning Of It All

Nothing. Zip. Nada. This whole thing is generating lots of buzz in the blogosphere, some fun and juicy flame-wars, but ultimately, like all talk-shows, it is just a flash in the pan. These shows are watched almost entirely by women in any case, and from a publicity stand-point, it is often the follow-up offers of interviews from more appealing markets in radio and print that pan out best, business-wise.

One bit of advice I will give you-if you ever get a call from a talk-show producer to be on a TV show like Phil or Orca Windbag, etc, be assured they can, do and WILL lie to you about what will go down.



Someone once said that politicians are people who couldn’t cut it as child-molester and who couldn’t get into the Mafia.

TV talk-show producers are people who couldn’t cut it as politicians.



Peace and piece,

RJ



P.S. Watch for my upcoming blog post: “The Myth of Approach Anxiety”.

  

  Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

Many of you know that I am a big comic book fan, and that I love Green Lantern.So it delights me to tell you that your Guru of Getting Some appears-sort of-in this month’s issue of Wonder Woman(issue #19 to be exact). 

The scoop is this: Bernie Chang, who is the inker/artist on the comic, is a fan of mine. Over dinner, he asked if he could use my face as the model for the Green Lantern who battles WW in this issue.

 Of course my answer was a strong "yes",  and so he took several pictures of my face at different angles, and "Voila".  When you see the GL in this issue, that is MY facial structure(or at least Bernie's interpretation).

Pretty cool, and yes, WW kicks GL’s ass.  Now if I could only contact the guy who draws Thor……

Peace and piece RJ

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,



It is amazing to me how many whining, snotty key-board jockeys have sent me hate-mail about my recent appearance on the Dr. Phil Show.



If you missed it, you can probably find a link to the video somewhere on line. I don’t care to abuse someone else’s intellectual property, and frankly waste the bandwith.

But if you are at all familiar with the people who hurl shit my way, I get bashed for being cranky, critical of others, knocking the work of other “gurus” and all I can say to that is:

.…………………Bite Me On The Ass, Boys-I SAVE LIVES

Now look: people have advised me to stop criticizing the work of others. That it makes me look fragile or threatened.

Well, no: what I am is pissed off. Pissed off that these phonies and cons are wasting the time and money of guys who need help far beyond what these idiots have even a clue about providing.



I know from training and teaching thousands of men, just how deeply stuck many guys are, and it infuriates me to see some of these pretend teachers mislead, misdirect, and mess up the minds of people who turn to them, often as a last resort.



So I am going to challenge every other so-called “pick-up/seduction” teacher, expert, guru etc out there.

Show me just one-ONE video-of a guy like this student of mine; a formerly suicidal virgin with no social contacts or social skills-that YOUR work turned around, the way my work turned this guy around. At the time of taping this, he’d slept with 16 women, including a lesbian, using Speed Seduction(R).

C’mon. If your stuff works for guys really on the ropes, SHOW ME THE PROOF. I’ll write a check for $1000 to your favorite charity for every video you can show me that meets these conditions.



Not some guys right after a seminar saying how much they enjoyed it.



Not videos of YOU picking up women.

Show me ONE video of a student who was in a condition close to condition of the guy in this video, telling how YOUR work turned HIM around.



Or shut up, and sit down. Or better yet get the hell out of town. Guys need real help. Not your bullshit.

Peace and piece,
RJ



P.S. If you want my best product for turning your inner game around, check out my Nail Your Inner Game program.

“Any sufficiently developed technology would be
indistinguishable from magic”…Arthur C. Clarke

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In the last issue of this series, I talked about the fatal mistake of not knowing how to transition from talking to getting physical with a woman. I gave you a link to an mp3 recording of a coaching session with a student, whom I helped to powerfully overcome this problem.

Now, at the conclusion of this series, I’d like to talk about perhaps the worst, most fatal mistake of all. When you get past this one, you’ll enjoy a power and success with women you can’t possibly imagine. So here is…

Fatal Mistake #10: Ignorance Of The Four Key Vibes To Attract Women

Ok. Here is the big secret. Let me lay it out for you in a few pieces to make it easier for you to get it and apply it:

1. Women respond to your vibe very strongly, as strongly as they do to your behavior and your words. Get your vibe in line and what you say and do will be magnified in power by a factor of 3-4 times.

Just to use a metaphor; your vibe is like a conductive medium and your words and behavior are like electricity. Send 10,000 volts down a sheet of cardboard and 10,000 volts down a sheet of gold foil and you will get two very different results. Same current, dramatically different end result.

The aligned power of your vibe, your words and your behavior doesn’t add. It multiplies. That’s the good news.

The bad news is, that if your vibe is off or incomplete(which is true for 99.9% of men, even guys who are naturally good with women), then the power of your words and behavior is divided by your incomplete or bad vibe.

I’m sure you’ve seen this time and again with guys who try to deliver lines or act in certain ways that don’t match their inner feelings or attitudes. They wind up looking like idiots and they repulse women.

2. There are actually four vibes, each one of which attractive to women, but no one vibe, by itself, is sufficient. While you may have seen some of these vibes discussed individually as ‘”the secret to attracting women”, in reality, none of them by themselves works well enough to have true choice and power and satisfaction with top quality women. You have to master and use them all. Using one or two of them guarantees a mediocre life of settling for the women you know you can get, instead of celebrating the ones you truly desire. Using all four you can write your own ticket.

3. The true secret is to use these vibes in combination, unpredictably, so a woman never can tell which one you will present next. Her need to “figure you out” when she can’t will multiply the effect of the vibes and drive you even deeper and more powerfully into her heart and mind.

Using all the vibes in combination creates the emotional variety that women actually deeply respond to. Being unpredictable in their use and presentation adds in the element of mystery that will drive her truly up a romantic wall trying to figure out what makes you so damned uniquely attractive.

Emotional variety x unpredictability/mystery x perception you are uniquely attractive=HER BEING MADLY ATTRACTED TO YOU!

At this point, it doesn’t matter if you are broker than bat-shit or you look like the north end of a flock of ducks flying south. You’ve got her. And her hot friends. Her twin sister. I think you get the picture.

More On Emotional Variety

Yes, women want to feel deeply led by a strong guy. But sometimes they also want to laugh with someone who is playful and fun.

Yes they sometimes want to laugh with someone fun. But sometimes they want to feel deeply understood-if they feel you understand where they are at, they will then feel you are someone who can lead them where you’d like them to go.

Sure they sometimes want to feel deeply understood, but at other times they want to feel they understand you-they want to know what you feel, what your world is like.

Unpredictability And Positive Challenge

Using the vibes unpredictably triggers her need to figure you out and, just as importantly, to figure out, master and understand her feelings.

Women are expected by society and other women, to be masters of their feelings; to understand and appreciate all the variations and permutations of the flow of them. It is considered as much a badge of womanhood as wearing a bra, pumping estrogen and squatting to pee.

But like guys who are tri-athletes who keep reaching for the next more difficult race, women are drawn to those emotional situations that they can’t figure out.

It’s a challenge to their powers, a challenge to the very essence of how they see themselves as women.

Unfortunately, almost all of the time, men challenge women in a negative way: saying one thing, then doing another. Being a kind guy one moment and a cruel idiot the next.

As Speed Seducers, we learn to challenge her need to figure her feelings, but do it in a positive way.

She’s not trying to figure out why sometimes she loves you and sometimes she hates you.

No, instead, she can’t figure out or predict all the various ways in which you make her feel fantastic.

She can’t quite figure out which of the attractive vibes you will come forth with next, which is more of the “real you”, which is more appealing to her, which she likes more in which event, circumstance and situation.

So you are touching her deepest emotional needs: variety and the need for self-mastery with her emotions, and you are doing it without for a moment ever dipping into negative emotions, or cruel, jerk-off behavior.

Shit, I Forgot To Describe The Four Vibes; Here They Are:

1. Being dominant, commanding, a strong leader
2. Being fun, playful, exciting
3. Demonstrating deep understanding and expertise of her world
4. Being vulnerable, open, and SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH!!!!

Conclusion

We’ve come a long way in this 10 part series. I hope you can see how far off their game most men are, and yet, by following this road map of knowledge, how close you actually are to wild, ridiculous and unbelievable success, power and choice with women.

Look: dealing with women from the wrong set of understandings and tools can be unbelievably frustrating, confusing, and borderline crazy making. And most of what we as men have been taught will work by popular media, friends and family is at best, not even half-true, and at worst, down-right stupid, crazy, defeating, totally false and wrong.

I know because I have been there and it can be a real hell. And I also know what it is like to be in an entirely different place of being in the driver’s seat and calling the shots.

You can find that great place too-whether you want one great woman, a series of different fantastic women, or something in between. I know because I’ve helped thousands and thousands of guys get there.

It would be my honor and pleasure to guide you there as well.

“Love under Will shall be the whole of the Law”…Thelema Society